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Understanding Hispano – Latino Culture
When I talk about surviving in Latin America, I’m not talking about being dropped off in the middle of the jungle and being left to find your way home. Some aspects of Latin American life have already been discussed on this site, such as the importance of the family unit in everything, but I just want to start mentioning a few other random observations I have made over the years in regard to understanding Hispanic-Latino culture.
I hope you find them useful, amusing or interesting and I will bring up many more observations in future posts. Certainly, if you have visited Latin America, you will recognize some of them.
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When visiting anywhere in the world, there will be times when you need to ask directions. I found out the hard way on more than one occasion, that this seemingly simple request is not as straight forward in some parts of Latin America.
Here is a tip for you – when you ask someone, for example where is the nearest bank, you need to ask at least two people and if you get two different answers, keep asking until you have at least two people that give you the same directions. Why? Because if you ask directions from someone in the street and they don’t know, they will often just invent an answer because they hate to admit their lack of knowledge.
The fact that you may end up wandering aimlessly for a while is of little importance to them, after all, what is a few extra minutes? It took me a couple of trips until I figured this out, but now I’m prepared. On one occasion, I did actually have to ask five different people before I managed to get a “set of two” the same.
Visits to people’s homes are often not planned.
If you are lucky enough to move to the region, don’t be surprised by unannounced visits. Generally, if someone wants to go over and see you, they will often just go, so don’t assume people will call ahead. They have a saying, “mi casa es su casa” (my house is your house), and for the most part, they mean it and it goes both ways.
When working in The Dominican Republic, my wife had a house in a village. It didn’t have any internal doors, just curtains, which meant that romantic moments were limited to when the kids were fast asleep in their room or had taken off somewhere and the front door was securely bolted.
Early one Saturday morning the kids told us that they were going off to play baseball with their friends and took off, closing the front door behind them. I took it as a bonus opportunity for some fun time but she was a little reluctant and told me that I would see why, so we just lay there talking. After a few minutes, a lady who lived across the street comes into the house, pulls back the curtain and starts a conversation about something to do with the arguments between her cousin and her husband.
The fact that we were both in bed, naked but well covered up by the bedsheets, didn’t faze either my wife or the neighbor. I just had to wait it out.
Table manners in the home
My first visit to dine with friends was very much a cultural shock for me. While the actual table manners were excellent all around, a few things did leave me surprised even though it was not a “formal dinner”:
- The father of the family was served first, which was fine, but when he finished first, he just left the table.
- No words of thanks (except by me, due to my upbringing) were offered to the person who prepared the meal, in this case, the mother. Generally, gratitude for the meal is assumed and they do not deem it necessary to be expressed. I still always do express my thanks and will continue to do so – nobody will think you are weird if you do this by the way!
- Don’t assume they will ask if you are a vegetarian, lactose intolerant, or anything like that. Yes, in many places things are changing but generally not. You can be fairly certain though that the meal will be prepared with fresh ingredients and taste excellent.
- Talking of saying “thank you”. We are accustomed to saying it everywhere, aren’t we? We go to a supermarket, we pick out our own fruit and vegetables, select everything we need and load it into our carts or baskets, take them out and put them on the cashier’s conveyor belt, then often bag our own purchases, then we pay ever increasing prices to a usually disinterested cashier, and we turn around and say “thank you”. In most Latin America countries when we say thank you to a cashier or server, they usually reply with, “de nada” (it’s nothing), “por nada” (for nothing), and in Central Mexico I often was told, “para que” (for what?). They were usually said to me in a genteel way, except for a couple of the Mexicans.
If a lack of internet connection, enjoy it while you can.
Many people couldn’t contemplate surviving in Latin America, or anywhere really, without constant internet service.
Sadly and selfishly on my part, more and more people of the region have become connected to the net through wifi, etc. This has resulted in, as has happened elsewhere in the world, the people, particularly the young, sitting or walking around staring at their phones.
There are still many areas where a good internet connection is almost non-existent, such as most of Cuba where I often travel, but even there it is starting to change.
For me, this lack of connectivity means a couple of things:
- It gives me a break from constantly being overly accessible.
- People actually talk to other people. The average Cuban, including the youth, can probably hold a more intelligent conversation than most other people on this planet.
Nowadays in Mexico, where I have started to be involved in business matters, it seems that most communication is carried out using WhatsApp. It makes a lot of sense actually as it is free, reliable, you can make good use of video and everyone there uses it. Their internet service seems to be as good as anywhere.
Latin Americans generally hate confrontation and will avoid conflict as much as possible.
They also hate saying no. This doesn’t mean they will always say yes – if the answer is negative, they would rather the request or question just drifts away and dies. There is a sense that a personal relationship will be badly damaged if they have to say “no” to someone.
The locals are used to waiting in lines at government offices, hospitals, banks, basically anywhere. They will wait without complaining (usually) and are quite accustomed to being shunted from department to department. Being told to come back the following day, even after waiting for hours, is accepted.
It is also quite common to see tourists and/or rich locals being shunted to the front of the line. I find it embarrassing for me as well as insulting to the locals. You can protest if you want but sometimes there are employees that can only attend to the needs of foreigners.
If you want to try and win the Nobel Peace Prize by waiting in line with the locals after you were invited to bypass the queue, when it’s finally your turn, you may get rewarded by the clerk pointing to another section and being told that you need to go over there!
Another disturbing thing I see quite a lot is the old “special tip to the security guard” method, which we often see in much of the world in lineups to get into a nightclub or popular restaurant. The issue in much of Latin America is that this happens more in lineups for basic food and groceries, but usually there is no attempt to conceal what is happening. I witnessed this on several occasions in The Dominican Republic, Mexico and, especially, Cuba.
On a recent trip there, the shortages were worse than ever and there were many people lined up to try and buy chicken, which is often in short supply. I was waiting on the other side of the street for some friends to join me, and watched a steady stream of people, mainly the wealthier locals, walk up to the door, slip the security guard some money. and walk straight in. The same person would exit a few minutes later carrying their goods. This did anger the ones waiting in line, but nobody did anything. Usually the guard will share the “tips” with their boss. To add to the insult, the goods often run out before many people at the back of the queue can be served. It’s a disgrace.
Crucial in this part of the world. I spent a few years setting up businesses here and much of that time, I was accompanied by our local lawyer. As stated elsewhere on this site, more time was initially spent getting to know the individuals we were dealing with as opposed to getting “straight to business” as we are accustomed to.
Generally, the lawyer knew or had come to know the official with whom we were meeting and invariably told me, it’ll be okay, he/she’s my friend. In many cases, he had only either previously met with them for a few minutes or simply had a brief phone conversation – regardless, they were “amigos mios”. Play along but take it with a pinch of salt.
Respect For Authority
In Latin America, the respect for authority, for a position, for a profession is much more pronounced than in Europe and North America. These “authority figures” are far less likely to be questioned here than they would be in many other parts of the world.
In what seems to be a total contradiction to this, corruption is commonplace. It is not liked but accepted as a part of the process. It’s also not fair as often the one with the most money or most powerful lawyers wins. This is not true of all Latin America and neither is it exclusive to this part of the world, but it is a problem.
Business experiences will teach you that in a legal battle, your lawyers need to be more powerful and corrupt than the opposition’s lawyers. In many cases, you can substitute the word sleazy for powerful. Too often the request for cash to “help out” an official will be made, which results in the case being resolved quickly. Apart from bribery being a crime, many don’t see anything wrong with this. Another article will highlight some of the experiences I had, along with those of friends.
A major election promise of most candidates in Latin American countries is “to fight and put an end to corruption”. Some do try but it does seem to be taking an awfully long time.
We often hear, or used to hear, about all the revolutions going on in this part of the world, and when you get to know the locals, you will probably realize that the people must have been pushed to breaking point in the past before revolting against the governments of the day.
As we mentioned above, they do not like confrontation and are more likely to accept a situation than try and change it.
Assume Lots Of Things
The locals seem to assume a lot. In Europe and North America, we are always told to “assume nothing, question everything”.
In Latin America for example, if they ask you to pick up something for them, they will not be calling after an hour to ask where it is – they asked you to pick it up, you said you would bring it, so everything is OK, they assume you will bring it when you can. Generally, when may not be important.
By contrast, if you ask a Latino to pick up something for you and don’t specify a time, they will not appreciate you following up an hour or so later asking where their item is. Again, they said they would bring it, so that is that!
On one occasion, my other half wanted to go and check out a bedroom suite that we had discussed buying from a carpenter’s workshop in a small Dominican town. As it was New Years Day, I told her that they would probably be closed; she said a flat “no, they’re open”. OK.
Off we drove, about an hour and a half on typical winding Dominican roads up into the hills, dodging many cars being driven by people in varied states of sobriety or drunkenness, When we got there, it was closed. I said to her, “You told me that they were open! Didn’t you check?” She merely looked at me like I was crazy and said, “They’re probably closed because it’s New Years Day. Let’s go home and come back tomorrow”.
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